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A Powerful Mindset By Rahz Slaughter, MPT, NLP

In the past two years, the world has been faced with a plethora of uncertainty and challenges. Parents, teachers, and children have all been tested. In today’s climate, I have seen a lot of uncertainty and self-doubt while coaching parents and teens. Some parents and teens are thriving, but others are just merely surviving. With so much negativity and uncertainty in the world, children lack motivation, and parents doubt themselves at work and home.
Breaking through these mindset challenges doesn’t have to be complicated. By the end of this article, you will walk away with an easy process so that you can begin to transform your mindset and your families forever.
I have used this method with my own challenges, and I’ve also implemented it with parents, teachers, and athletes who want to thrive and create a balanced and fulfilling life.
The B.A.S. Method for overcoming obstacles is practical for all ages and works as follows:

B: Beliefs Create empowering beliefs about yourself, your family, and your life. It would help if you eliminate the negative beliefs that keep you from living the life you desire. The first step to eliminating negative beliefs is to be conscious of them. When you hear yourself making a judgment about yourself and others, ask “Is this a belief?” Write down all the negative thoughts you have for 24 hours. Then I recommend you begin reframing each one into a positive belief. Repeat this exercise until you have reframed all of your negative personal and professional thoughts.

Ex: You say, “I am not a great parent.”

Reframe: I am a loving parent doing the best I can and getting better every day.
Then look for evidence to support that reframe, such as “I always greet my children with lots of hugs and kisses.” Once you practice this repeatedly, over time you will reframe your negative beliefs.

A: Attitude You may have heard the phrase “a person’s attitude determines their altitude.” This is as true in parenting as anything else in life. There is no perfect playbook for parenting, but a positive attitude will make parenting less stressful and much more fulfilling.
There are two factors that I believe are essential for mastering the A in the BAS Method.

Parenting with gratitude. Being grateful and sharing that energy with your children and everyone in your life will create an environment of harmony. Every night, as a family, practice reviewing three things to be grateful for, even if it’s small. My stepson used to say, “I’m grateful there were chicken nuggets for lunch in school today.” That adorable statement of gratitude helped set the tone for him to look for the little things to be grateful for every day.
Positivity. Practicing and promoting positivity within a family is critical because the entire family will begin to see obstacles with less friction. When something challenging occurs, discuss how to frame that to find the positivity out of it.

Combining gratitude and positivity will give a family the certainty that they can handle any challenge because their minds will not allow negative beliefs to override the positive.

S: Self-Talk is the final piece to create a powerful mindset that can withstand the most significant and toughest life challenges.
I’ve found that people can be mean to themselves, especially in stressful situations.
To avoid speaking negatively about yourself, I recommend using an affirmation to give yourself a daily pep talk. Clinical psychologist, Jennifer Guttman, estimated that roughly 85% of people worldwide (adults and adolescents) have low self-esteem. I have seen firsthand as a coach how shifting how we speak to ourselves can instantly improve a person’s self-esteem and confidence.

Daily Pep-talk Exercise:
Step 1: Write a positive affirmation and memorize it.
Step 2: Each morning, say it three times.
Step 3: At the end of the night, repeat the affirmation three times.
Complete this exercise for 21 days.
It’s simple, but the results are proud and lasting.
The BAS Method isn’t rocket science, but a family instantly recognizes the changes when installed and implemented. The everyday interaction between family members improves, and balance and harmony becomes the norm.

Mastering your mindset is essential to harmony and happiness, and the BAS method is a great place to begin.
We cannot prevent life from throwing obstacles our way, but we can be prepared to handle them with a powerful mindset. I have learned through years of research, reading, dealing with people, and dealing with my own thoughts, that there are certain tools and strategies that can create positive outcomes, no matter what your life circumstances.
I have used one of these tools – the BAS Method – on myself and on the countless athletes and clients that I have trained throughout the years. And it has worked wonders on parents and their children.❦


About Rahz Slaughter, MPT, NLP

Rahz Slaughter is a performance and health coach with more than 21 years of experience. Born and raised on Long Island, NY, he currently lives in South Florida with his wife, Michele, and 17-year old stepson, Nicholas.
Rahz’s passion for helping teens develop a powerful mindset resulted from overcoming many life challenges from adolescence to adulthood. Today Rahz travels the country speaking at schools and conferences about leadership, confidence, and self-awareness.
Rahz is the co-author of Student Success Secrets and creator of the S3 Accelerator Life and Success Coaching Program for teens.

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